Have you ever heard of the term, ‘revenge bedtime procrastination’? The name itself sounds rather intimidating, doesn’t it? Revenge. Surely, that doesn’t sound very bright or positive. But here’s the thing: the whole concept isn’t as grim as one might think. In fact, it might be more common than you realise, and it happens to even the best of us.
So, what exactly is this ‘revenge bedtime procrastination’? Simply put, it refers to the act of sacrificing one’s sleep for more personal time, purely because you’ve felt a distinct lack of “me-time” in your daily schedule. Let’s explore this a little further, shall we?

The Scene of the Crime: When “Me-Time” Goes Missing
To make this concept a little simpler to understand, let’s paint a picture. Imagine you have a highly stressful job. Perhaps you’re slaving away in front of your desktop for hours, or maybe you’re dashing from one work event to another like a whirlwind. It could be anything – any job or happening that keeps you on your toes, snatching away any precious personal moments. By the end of the day, you are understandably exhausted. The night is late, and normally, it’s time to surrender to the sweet embrace of your bed.

However, since you’ve spent the entire day tending to other people’s needs and other commitments, you haven’t had a single moment for yourself. Your well-deserved me-time! So, you decide to take revenge. No matter how tired you feel, no matter how much your body yearns for rest, you are determined to extract your “revenge” for that very lack of personal time. You decide to claim that time during bedtime, just before you sleep. This could mean anything from falling into a doomscrolling rabbit hole on your phone, to diving into a video game, or simply indulging in any entertainment you’d normally enjoy during your personal hours. But here’s the catch – this all takes place during your supposed bedtime. You are, in essence, forced to procrastinate your bedtime to fulfil this personal time “revenge.” And thus, the name “revenge bedtime procrastination” was born.
The Cost of the Rebellion: Why Skipping Sleep Hurts
Of course, this isn’t exactly healthy for the body. A human body needs its rest. While one or two nights of this “revenge bedtime procrastination” might not cause significant harm, prolonged engagement can quickly lead to sleep deprivation. Without enough hours of sleep, your mind and body simply can’t properly recharge, which can have widespread negative effects on your health – affecting your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
A lack of sleep can cause a degradation in your thinking, memory, and decision-making abilities. It also raises the risk of daytime sleepiness, which ultimately affects your productivity during the day – precisely when you’re meant to be at your sharpest. It may even bring upon real, life-threatening harm; sleepiness during the day can lead to the risks of drowsy driving, which is a clear danger to yourself and others.

Beyond the immediate dangers, a lack of sleep is tied to irritability and difficulties regulating emotions. Have you ever noticed that people who don’t get enough sleep just seem cranky most of the time? Furthermore, chronic sleep deprivation has been connected to mental health disorders, such as depression and anxiety. Physically, a lack of sleep is said to worsen your health, making you more susceptible to cardiovascular problems and metabolic disorders, like diabetes. If left unchecked, these consequences of sleep loss can easily build up over time, leading to even more serious issues.
And that is why, if you recognise that you’re engaging in “revenge bedtime procrastination,” you need to put a stop to it.

Recognising the Rebel Within: Is it You?
But first, what truly constitutes “revenge bedtime procrastination”? Surely, it’s not just every time someone sleeps late, right? You’re right. It’s when you purposefully delay going to sleep without a good reason, such as an illness or needing to get some urgent work done. And crucially, it’s when you are fully aware that delaying sleep is bad for you, yet you still do it.

Reclaiming Your Nights: Strategies for Good Sleep
So, how does one prevent this midnight rebellion?
Prioritise Sleep Hygiene
When you hear “hygiene,” your mind probably jumps to showering and brushing your teeth, right? For sleep hygiene, it involves consistently practising good sleep habits and maintaining an environment that promotes restful sleep. It’s important to remember that building good habits takes time and consistency, so don’t give up just after the first night if you feel like it’s not working.

Embrace a Consistent Routine
Having a consistent routine is crucial. Try setting a fixed time to go to sleep and wake up, every single day, even on weekends. Admittedly, you’ll need to put in extra effort to try and wake up and sleep at the same time during the weekend – it’s definitely tempting to stay up late and wake up late, since it’s, well, the weekend! But try to persevere and keep the consistency; this can help regulate your body’s internal clock. With time, your body might even recognise when to sleep and wake up by itself, without needing an alarm!

Craft a Nighttime Ritual
Establishing a little nighttime routine helps, too. You could read a book, do some gentle stretches, or perhaps indulge in your nightly skincare routine. But the key here is to avoid the use of electronics, as we don’t want them to distract us from sleeping early.

Savvy Sleep Tips
Some other tips include avoiding caffeine in the late afternoon and evening, as it can keep you wide awake at night no matter how much you try to sleep. As a little extra effort, try creating an ideal sleep environment for yourself. Make your bedroom inviting and conducive to sleep. This can be done by ensuring your room is as dark as possible, noise disturbances are minimised, and you can even invest in a comfortable mattress and bedding. Imagine a quiet, cool sanctuary, a haven where your mind and body can truly unwind – sure does sound like a dream!

Seek Professional Guidance
And last, but certainly not least, seek professional help if needed. If you experience persistent sleep problems or significant daytime sleepiness, consult a doctor. They can assess your sleep habits, check for underlying sleep disorders, and develop a personalised plan to improve your rest.
Recalibrating your body’s internal clock to a healthy night/morning routine is definitely a daily effort. However, perhaps some more indulgent methods could help as well. Consider taking a few days off work, booking a stay at a nice hotel, and truly prioritising your wellness and me-time. Because, if you dedicate the entire day to yourself, and yourself only, obviously you won’t be needing to take any “revenge” during the night!

If you’re seeking to truly unwind and dedicate some quality time to yourself, Southeast Asia is brimming with incredible stays where you can sit back, relax, and reconnect with your inner calm. Imagine the lush, vibrant embrace of nature at a place like the Four Seasons Resort Langkawi, where the only “revenge” you’ll be seeking is against the stresses of daily life as you immerse yourself in the serene environment. Or perhaps a more focused approach to well-being is what you crave; Chiva-Som Hua Hin in Thailand offers an array of wellness-based retreats designed to rejuvenate both body and mind. And don’t limit yourself to just stays – consider venturing into the world of delightful spas, both within the region and beyond. While the Royal Bush Spa in Zambia and the Onsen Hot Pools Retreat in Queenstown (though to clarify, the Onsen Hot Pools are famously located in Queenstown, New Zealand, not England!) might take you further afield, they exemplify the kind of blissful escapes that can help recalibrate your internal clock and ensure your personal time is truly cherished, long before bedtime even arrives.